Michael Rodham doesn't believe in Facebook.
"It's absolutely an invasion of people's privacy," said Rodham, a tourist from England who visited Alexandria, Va., last month. "I think Facebook causes more problems, more breakups, and more trouble than it's worth."
Like it or not, social media has become and integral part of life in 2014. Everything that anyone does becomes a shared experience with followers on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. People who went to high school together in the 1970s and '80s can reunite with old friends, college buddies can keep in touch after graduation; Facebook users are able to connect with one another more than any previous generations. A Washington Post Express article published last week cites a study saying that nearly 21 percent of people who met their spouses online and got married between 2005 and 2012 met through social networking sites. That's about the same amount of people who meet their spouses at school, in person.
But social media isn't all fun and games. People like Rodham, who say that the new media is an invasion of privacy, are constantly being validated as the networks learn more and more about their users.
On May 19, 2014, Facebook launched a new feature, called "Ask," on its site. The Ask button allows Facebook users to ask friends for information that they don't have posted on their profiles, such as relationship status or current city. If someone receives an Ask request, he can either share his information exclusively with the friend who requested it, or post it publicly on his profile.
Visitors to both Alexandria and Washington, D.C. the week after the new feature was launched had mixed opinions about it.
"It seems a bit intrusive," said Cheryl Compton, who brought a group of Texas high school students to the area for a field trip. "I'm a fairly private person. I think I might not [respond to an Ask request]."
Birmingham, Ala., resident David Olivet, who shares a Facebook account with his wife Heather, stumbled across the Ask button the first week that it was available, and he took advantage of it. "We've got a relative that we're going to visit, and I didn't know her email address," Olivet said. "So I clicked on it to request her email, because she didn't have it publicized. And she sent it to me."
Curtis Anderson from Tucson, Ariz., estimates that he checks his Facebook account five times each day. His feelings about the new Ask button are neutral. "I think [people will] either use it or they won't," said Anderson, who was visiting the National Mall with his family. "I think people will get upset about it, but I don't think that will stop [Facebook] from providing a service. If you don't answer, you don't answer." Anderson said he would honor an Ask request if it came from someone he really knew, but he would otherwise ignore it.
In addition to toeing the line with data and information sharing, social media accounts can also lead to physically dangerous situations. The same week that Facebook's new Ask feature unveiling was in the news, a darker story out of North Carolina also emerged.
On May 21, 2014, USA Today reported that a 27-year-old man from Albemarle had been hiding in the closet of 14-year-old girl and engaging in sexual activities with her. The two met online and communicated via social media, and the girl's parents were unaware. After chatting through their social media accounts for about a month, the man, Jarred Ashley Workman, and the teen agreed to meet in the woods near the girl's home in the Love Valley, N.C. area. Workman then snuck into the teen's house without her parents' knowledge and hid in her closet for five days, coming out at night to have sex with the girl. He was discovered when the girl's mother opened the closet door to put some laundry away. Workman is now in jail on a more than $1 million bond.
This raises the question then of how many parents actually monitor their children's social media accounts.
Heather Olivet said that while she and her husband typically don't log in to their kids' social media accounts, they do have access to them. "We have their passwords, but rarely do we go in them," said Olivet, with her family at the National Mall. "But we could."
Anderson said that his teenage son has an Instagram account, but that he doesn't monitor it.
Compton said that all of her children are adults except one, and she does monitor the minor's Facebook account.
Rodham said that the only media he needs is watching television back home in England. "It doesn't bother me," he said. "Too many people spend time on mobiles and iPhones and Facebook. You lose the ability to talk to people, to interact with people. It's a faceless society."